"I guess our parents stayed together simply because they didnt have 7000 other people following them or liking their pictures at their disposal when their marriage or relationship got hard. Nowadays when our relationship hits the rocks we can just log in and get high of this false sense of security and appreciation.
We value our worth based on comments and inbox messages filled with colourful words that have no depth. Meanwhile, the person who loves you when there is no filter on your face becomes an option and the rest of the world who just sees your representative becomes priority. Don’t loose what is real chasing behind what only appears to be."
"Ryan Gosling: Personally I feel like Blue Valentine is a hopeful movie because I think it addresses something that needs to be addressed. The only way to heal from something is to address it, acknowledge it, and then move forward. A lot of times when you get into a fight with whoever you’re with, it helps bring you closer. Michelle said something really interesting to me about being a mom… she was just saying that part of your life as a mother and as a parent is playing. You have to play, because if you don’t, the kid gets mean. It helped me to understand the movie, in a way, like maybe relationships are like that. You have to take them out in the backyard and run them around every day, and if you don’t, it’ll start to sour. I think what happens is these people take it for granted, and they go, ‘Okay, you love me, I love you, okay, great. Now we got that covered. We can go focus on our lives.’ And then this thing just starts to sour. Then because it came so naturally, it’s this thing that happened right at first sight and it was so easy, they want it to be effortless forever. I think that it takes work. My hope is that when people see the film… it starts a dialogue.
Interviewe: I don’t know, I don’t think they… do you think that they get back together?
Ryan Gosling: Yeah, I do. I really did. I just think that it’s two days of their life, you know? I mean, it’s a bad two days. And the film is focusing on those two days, but there’s so much, and it’s funny to me, they could have so much love in the past, and just… I just think there’s so much love there. They have a bad two days, and then everyone says it’s over, you know? I just think that’s the problem. We don’t look at how much they’ve built."
Life is about chances, change and choices. The order they present themselves in vary as do their manifestations.
When things change, assess the situation and make a choice to give it a second chance. We all don’t always get it right on the first try.
Chances. Change. Choices.
I feel so blessed that I’ve had the opportunity to spend time discovering who I am and what I want to be professionally. Life is about reinvention and sometimes it’s hard, but it’s worth the journey. I’m ready to take the leap and dive into my next adventure. 25 feels amazing.
"We love without heeding reason, and cease to love in the same manner."
"If only I could visit you as a foreigner goes into a new country, learn the language of you, wander past all borders into every private and secret place, I would stay forever. I would become a citizen of you."
— Lisa Kleypas, A Wallflower Christmas